Sharon has left us too

Oswaldo Costa

Oswaldo Costa
I have no details.

I'm sorry, my dearest friend, if you were unable to find the strength to carry on, and have gone to be with Joe.

I will miss you immensely.
 
Oh, this is just horrible news. I managed to catch up with her on my last visit to NYC. While her life sounded messy, I had no inkling of any greater problems. Shit, shit, shit.

Mark Lipton
 
originally posted by MLipton:
Oh, this is just horrible news. I managed to catch up with her on my last visit to NYC. While her life sounded messy, I had no inkling of any greater problems. Shit, shit, shit.

Mark Lipton

She was truly fond of you, and really enjoyed getting together when you were last in town.
 
originally posted by MLipton:
Oh, this is just horrible news. I managed to catch up with her on my last visit to NYC. While her life sounded messy, I had no inkling of any greater problems. Shit, shit, shit.

Mark Lipton

Mark, to be clear, we don't know yet exactly what happened, even though distally we all feel like we know what happened. I think we all feel like we could/should have done more but I'm not sure how much any of us could have really helped. These kinds of things are insidious as we've grown to learn.

I hope we are all able to celebrate the Sharon we loved and not beat ourselves up to much over what we weren't able to do to help.
 
originally posted by VLM:
Mark, to be clear, we don't know yet exactly what happened, even though distally we all feel like we know what happened. I think we all feel like we could/should have done more but I'm not sure how much any of us could have really helped. These kinds of things are insidious as we've grown to learn.

I hope we are all able to celebrate the Sharon we loved and not beat ourselves up to much over what we weren't able to do to help.
This.

Some of you know that a very dear friend of Jay's and me killed himself in 2001.

I spoke to him the night before he did it. He was at a noisy birthday party, called me from the upstairs bathroom because it was the only quiet spot in the entire house. Gone less than 12 hrs later.

Did I hear anything in his voice, that I dismissed, that should have signalled me to jump on a plane (he lived in Boulder, CO), call a hospital, call his mother, anything, something?

You can't live like that. (And I don't, for anyone worried about me.)
 
This is terrible news. I didn't know Sharon as well as many of you but I will cherish our short time together both online and offline. She was passionate and engaging and I always sought her company when I made it into town. I will miss her.
 
Oh my, really sad news.

Thank you Sharon, for helping me to finally meet Chris and Lisa face-to-face a few years ago, after so many years of conversing online.
 
Sharon’s abrupt departure has been on my mind all day, which is, perhaps as it should be, and wrenchingly sad, and hard to bear.

About the same time Joe Dougherty gave me the bottle of Baudry rosé referred to in a post I made a week ago, I was working on a song called “Old Bones,” and though I’d never have imagined, at that time, the circumstances under which I offer this (bridge and final verse); it seems, somehow, to speak to the growing sense of brutal loss that accompanies one’s later years:

I’ve been down this road so many times
I could drive it in my sleep
I’ve suffered plenty, for my crimes
And the company I keep

Tomorrow’s such a long time
Clear out beyond the skies
It’s gonna be a busy day tomorrow
It’s gonna steal the sleep right from your eyes
Tonight the perfume of your favorite rose
That through my mind forever blows
May be all it truly knows
That I might not revise
 
Hearing this news I cried without knowing Sharon except from her posts and a brief lovely email exchange in November 2016.
I just cried.
Tonight I open a 2002 C & P Breton Bourgeuil "Clos Senechal" to share with her in spirit. It is superb: lithe, almost velvety, with a stiff mineral backbone and some lovely Benais black bark. The nose is haunting....
 
For those who wish to attend the service:
Sharon_Bowman_service.jpg
 
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